In the October issue of this newsletter the
“Ed” issued the following invitation:
This issue
contains views on spirituality from three women. It would be great to hear
other views and particularly from a man's perspective. What is happening for
men in [the] realm of spirituality…? How do men develop their spirituality,
particularly when they move outside more patriarchal church structures
As a consequence I offer the following response in the hope of
encouraging continued reflection and debate around questions of gender and
spirituality.
While popular psychology differentiates
people according to a wide variety of characteristics, and while these
distinctions are tremendously useful in helping me understand myself and my
relationships with others, psychiatrist and spiritual accompanier Gerald May
suggests that the likes of saints Teresa of Avila and John of the Cross would
draw the line at this kind of classification being applied to Spirituality – to
my spirituality.
May notes with reference to these two, that
they make few suggestions, and virtually no specific prescriptions, as to ways
of responding to God. Instead, they offer that we “do what brings [us] most to
love…and let God do the rest.” He further suggests that both these great
Christian saints would balk at any statement that implies:“Because you're a woman [or man], your spiritual life and experience
will be like this…”
Instead, they would affirm that:
“…
The particular path a person's soul life follows is determined by God's unique,
loving, and always unpredictable [activity]…”
“The
deepest constants of the spiritual life are the same for everyone regardless of personality or gender. It's
always a process of liberation from attachment, of growing freedom for love of
God and person, of self-knowledge and the realisation of one's true identity
[in Christ] in God.
…However
[beyond those common foundations], our individual stories are coloured and
textured by who we are as individuals and by God's unique ways of loving us –
ways that can never be prescribed, only discovered.” 1
I agree with May about there being “deep
constants” common to our spiritual formation and growth, and also believe that
there is a particularity, a uniqueness about the ways and means through which
we each experience and respond to God.
For me, a dimension of masculine
spirituality is about recognising thatÂ
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“Masculine spirituality is rooted, consciously or otherwise,
in men's sense of self as men; that is, in men's social, cultural, physical,
sexual and psychological experience, as
distinct from that of women.” 2
So if spirituality can be gendered and
defined by diverse human experiences, it follows that, to a point, specifically
masculine experiences of spirituality are likely in and of themselves to be far
from uniform. Masculine experience is –
“Formed by class, race and differing cultures [and more
besides], fostering a diverse range of distinctive and sometimes competing
masculinities. From this perspective there can be no single or normative
spirituality among men [or women], but a plethora of spiritualities…”
That said, I'm increasingly looking for
spiritual practices, contexts, spiritual friendships and ways of being “me”
that encourage and enable both the honouring of my particularities as a male,
while at the same time nurturing the “deeper constants” of the spiritual life
that Teresa and John suggest ‘smooth out' the particularities of gender.
If “spirituality” has to do with “lived
experience”, with ones experience of the living presence of God, then a
distinctively Christian Spirituality is “nothing more-nor-less than life
[lived] by the Spirit,” i.e. “one is Spiritual to the degree that one
lives in and walks by the Spirit” 3 (e.g. Rom 8:1-16
in particular, and Gal 5: 13-25). In part then, spirituality for me has to do
with my lived experience as a male, about how I as a male live my life
increasingly as response and surrenderness to the Spirit.
My capacity to respond to God, and my ways
of experiencing God are richer than any constraints my gender might impose upon
me. And it is precisely at this point that I don't find notions of a “male
spirituality” helpful or freeing – labels or boxes have a funny habit of
reducing rather than liberating us. Thus, my ways of talking about a
Jesus-centred spirituality are less concerned with Jesus' masculinity than with
the broader categories of his humanity or personhood. I'm more interested in
the mystery of his being the perfect embodiment of what it means to ‘image' God
humanly (imago Dei). I'm interested in how he relates in his breadth of
personhood to God, self and others.
Here's how I currently narrate my experience of
spirituality:
My spirituality centres on
the aspirational belief that in my cooperating with the Spirit, in my
orientation toward God and in my living I am becoming increasingly human after
the likeness and example of Jesus.
In becoming increasingly
human I'm learning how, in the midst of all of life, to live more vulnerably,
more freely, more lovingly, more honestly and authentically, and thus to live
as a more integrated or whole person in relation to God, myself, and other
persons.
St. Irenaeus, a church leader in the second century said that “the
glory of God is a person fully alive.”
One of my favourite icons is the one on the right. Notice that Jesus is
standing between two persons whose hands he is holding, holding to himself
their maleness and their femaleness. The
two persons are Adam and Eve – the first imagers of God (Gen 1:26a, 27).
I wonder if St. Irenaeus' notion of a fully alive person is in fact a
person who in Christ is able to explore, develop and live out their
humanity in terms of both the masculine and the feminine.
In other words, I wonder if Jesus somehow holds out the possibility of
reconfiguring what it means to be human. At the deeper levels of our humanity
does Jesus somehow enable a breakdown of the ways in which gender so often
divides us – both inwardly and outwardly? In Christ's resurrection, are richer
and ultimately more fulfilling possibilities held out to us as females and
males.
I wonder too if Jungian psychology has stumbled upon
something important when it talks of individuation. 4 Jung held that
every man and every woman has both “masculine” and “feminine” traits. In the
male, masculine priorities are usually dominant on the surface and feminine
qualities are recessive.
In women the opposite is true. Jung refers to the
inner feminine as the anima and the inner masculine as the animus.
He understands these inner-figures to behave in ways compensatory to the outer
personality.
In a man, these are feminine
characteristics, in a woman, masculine. Normally both are always present, to a
certain degree, but find no place in the person's outwardly directed
functioning because they disturb the outer manifestation, his or her
established ideal image of themselves.
Am I somehow my truest self, not when I align myself exclusively to
male or female ways of configuring spirituality, but rather in my being
able to live out of an identity that honours both?
Am I somehow responding to the
Spirit, and thus more able to fully experience God, when I can utilise
practical ways of nourishing and better integrating the masculine and the
feminine within me?
Paul
Fromont
1. Commentary from Gerald G. May was derived from his 2004 published book The Dark Night of the Soul: A Psychiatrist Explores the Connection Between
Darkness and Spiritual Growth, pp. 164-168.
2. Mark Pryce, Masculine Spirituality in The New SCM Dictionary of Christian Spirituality edited by Philip Sheldrake (London:SCM Press) 2005, p. 426.
The bold highlights in the Pryce quotes are mine
3. Gordon D. Fee
4. where the individuation process if concerned with the realisation and integration of all the immanent possibilities of the individual