prayer in and beyond words
Heavily borrowed from “Prayer in and beyond words”, in Called
Again by Alan Jamieson.
For some people the issues of truth
and meaning are far less pressing than the sense of a deeper personal reality
to their faith; the knowledge that they are deeply connecting with God.
For those who have an EPC
(Evangelical, Pentecostal, Charismatic) faith belief structure (within or
outside of church involvement) prayer is typically a means of communication
with God, it is seen as “essential”
and is strongly focused on results and answers. Prayers are often very wordy,
and full of clichés and Christian code, and can be so
In contrast those in the midst of
the deconstruction of their own faith often talk of prayer as an “occasional” experience focusing less on asking for things and more on prayer
as a connecting point with God.
Our image of God changes as our
faith crumbles under the weight of questions, grief, pain, despair and failure.
Unsure of who it is we are approaching we fearfully wait on the sidelines of
prayer. Resentment can also hold us at a distance, God has let us down, and it
can continue as an open wound that never heals. It takes courage to face God in
our fear and vulnerability with our resentment and hurts.
This is often the beginning point of
the psalms – the prayer book of scripture. The cry of David from two of the
psalms conveys the pain:
“My God, my God, why have you
deserted me?
Why are you so far away?
Won't you listen to my groans and
come to my rescue?
I cry out day and night.
But you don't answer and I can never
rest”
“Yahweh, don't shut me out;
Don't give me the silent treatment O
God”
These are the upfront and honest
prayers of a struggle caught in fear, the silence of God and personal
resentment.
Desert experiences (or as
The process of walking through the
times of questioning, doubt, failure, hopelessness, and despair, alters prayer
profoundly and irreversibly. Prayer becomes about not only allowing contact
with God, but enables ones “true self” to grow.
Somehow prayer seems to move from a
focus on the details of methodology and finding “answers” to the simplicity of
being with. Prayer is born in listening and is the response of deep listening.
Listening to ourselves, others and the world.
Reconnections in prayer often begin
in nature. Listening to the waves and wind, seeing the ocean in its various
moods, observing the flight of a bird, climbing a mountain or laughing at the
antics of a kitten can all be fuel for prayer. Gently and fully aware of all
that holds us back we stop hiding and running to listen and watch.
Over time we can begin to move from
listening to nature to listening to our own inner selves, our inner truth or to
unpacking our dreams and the messages they convey. From here we begin to listen
to the pain and struggles of the world or even to the words of scripture and to
bring the fruit of these listenings to our prayer.
“There in the midst of obscurity,
the presence, imperceptible, dark and gentle”. In the darkness we cannot rely
on our senses to lead us, we need to trust the journey/process/mystery/”that
other”/God. It is, as John describes it, a journey into an unknown land where
all the road ways are new and in which we have no prior knowledge or map. It is
a journey into uncertainty – a journey of mystery, and requires faith and
courage. “The fruit of the night journey will not be a soiree for a
self-preoccupied spiritual elite but the realisation that the world's wounds
are the spaces through which God enters.” We begin to realise we are part of
something much bigger than we had previously realised. Jean Pierre de Caussade
described prayer as that moment when “our soul, light as a feather, fluid as
water, innocent as a child responds to every movement of grace like a floating
balloon.”