Name: Julianne McEldowney
Age: Â Â Â 33
Situation in life:
I choose to be single, currently
flatting with 2 others in Onehunga Auckland.
Christian perspective:
born into a Christian evangelical
worldview in small-town
Significant events in childhood:
at 8 my mother died (cancer), 2
years later dad remarried – I gained a second mum and 2-step brothers (became a
merged family); at 13 my younger sister died (different kind of cancer). Through
these events I never doubted God's presence, just accepted that life wasn't a
neat little package.
What made sense for me about life
was that relationships were important, but I'm not sure I knew how to relate with
people on the level of being real. My perception was that life was to be fully
lived - in my early 20s each day was full of activity, there was no room for
rest, reading, or engaging truly with the riches of life (joy, sadness,
creativity) – I was skating along the surface. Not having ambition for a
career, I took opportunities that came my way, and immersed myself in finding
connection through activity at church. Underneath the activity, was a growing
sense of being dissatisfied, that there had to be something else…
I attended Bible College in 1997,
hoping this would provide answers to my searching – one year at a time for 3
years I hoped, prayed and waited…..a degree gained, I left, found a job, and
again immersed myself in church until, burnout, I needed a break. The unrest
didn't stop there, I was still marking time. Needing to find a sense of
belonging, I became attached to what I knew, even if it wasn't particularly
liberating. Â A constant wallpaper thought
(always present, part of my inner scene) was that my call was to work overseas
– everything would come together then; I would find my purpose. In the meantime
all my activity was marking time, part of the bigger picture. After much
deliberation and the encouragement of friends I was accepted to work for 4
months in a place ending in “…stan”. Being as far away from my NZ experience as
possible I began to stop running (there was no where else to run to…). I had
time to think, I met people who talked about intentional living and who lived
it out – they had concern for world issues, but lived simply and faithfully in
the present.
When I returned to my church in
We talk about unpacking
our faith…letting go of certain beliefs/ideas, being open to what lies beyond
being evangelical, sifting the things we want to keep, and what we will leave
behind. Seeking truth in ways that goes beyond what I know is taking me out of
my comfort zone, but also bringing me to a new place that gives me hope for the
road ahead.
The journey
of letting go has meant more than physically leaving church and undoing my
faith framework. With the absence of being involved in church stuff, I found
that I had to face who I was, there was time to think. I regarded my thoughts
as defining who I was – they dictated how I perceived I was regarded by others,
how I interacted with my world, and impacted on my emotional state. My
experience was one of confusion, being tossed about by whatever thought
happened to pass by on any given occasion. It hasn't been easy having these
realisations – discovering stuff about yourself that you'd rather keep running
from! Â
Centering
Prayer, a christian meditation practice, has been significant in restoring hope
in seeking God and finding peace within. This practice is bringing me home to
living in the present moment, i.e. not distracted by what I hope will be. It's
a practice of letting go of thoughts in order to seek God who is beyond these.
Mary Margaret Funk in her book, A Mind at Peace, says, “To know our thoughts is an essential step in redirecting our heart to
God in prayer. … The key practice leading us to know our thoughts and to
renounce our thoughts, is silence. Wisdom tells us that silence will teach us
everything.”
In seeking
God in this realm of silence, I am beginning to have a sense of what it means
to be fully known. In this space I can simply ‘be' – there's no need for
pretence, or defence mechanisms - there is nothing to be proved. But it's a
discipline of letting thoughts go and not dwelling on them. Â
Engaging in
Centering Prayer is inviting God's presence and action within. At other times
our attention moves outward to discover God's presence everywhere. According to
Meister Ekhart, “What we plant in the
soil of contemplation, we shall reap in the harvest of action”. Â I'm finding that I have a greater appreciation
for creation, and what is, and that I am more centred in my approach to what I
do in the everyday.
What is Centering Prayer
Centering
prayer is a method of prayer which uses a sacred word to draw you back to rest
in the silence. Take a moment…. imagine yourself sitting quietly, with your
eyes closed, breathing fully and deeply; rest in the silence. As thoughts
appear gently use your sacred word to return to the silence. You repeat this
sequence, continuing to choose to let go of your thoughts and return to the
silence. And so begins a new way of connecting with God, and yourself, and the
world around you.
Funk
describes this process as seeking God through the cloud of unlearning. “At the most elementary level, silence allows
us to know ourselves because we move against the automatic chatter of conscious
living.”
I've found
this practice centres me in the here and now. My thoughts tell me how I am –
anxious, worried, stressed, excited, happy – and as I learn to let these go,
using a sacred word – the anxiety or feeling shifts, I'm able to remain
balanced rather than tossed about by my thoughts. Another gem from Mary
Margaret Funk is that “We are not our thoughts. Thoughts come and thoughts go”.
I've found this to be reassuring!
There's a
change happening from within, a growing sense of wholeness and being OK with
myself and the world – the good and even the not-so-good. It's like being able
to hold different views/perspectives/situations – not needing black and white
answers to big questions (a new trust that is colourful).
This is a
journey – the thoughts come and go, but in being aware and choosing to let them
go is a discipline that may take a lifetime to master. The journey of letting
go has become something more than leaving church and what I thought I believed.
It is now a journey of letting go of thoughts to seek God who is beyond even
these. This is giving me hope beyond the path of knowing.
If you want to know more about Centring Prayer:
contact: Andrew
Rockell, the person who introduced me to this practice and who has facilitated
a number of Centering Prayer workshops in
www.thecentering.org/centering_method.html
Centering
Prayer and Inner Awakening by Katherine Bourgeault.
New Seeds of
Contemplation, by Thomas Merton.
A Mind at
Peace, by Mary Margaret Funk.