Dark
Night of the Soul
I come from a middle-class family
with a strict sense of right and wrong, which is rooted in an unashamedly
fundamentalist Christian faith. I have
been surrounded by love, was fed a diet of wholesome gospel truths, and made a
conscious decision to become a Christian at a young age. Walking the path of simple faith through my
childhood I received my second baptism, that of the holy spirit, whilst a young
teenager. Taking ownership of my
family's faith as an adolescent, I stayed a relatively good boy, speaking in
tongues, reading the bible, and going to church. At university I joined a Christian Union that
I described simply as 'on fire', and my spiritual life went into overdrive.
Christian meetings of some sort
became an almost daily occurrence, with prayer, small-groups, worship,
bible-study, mentoring and local church - many of which involved me
leading. At no point did I go because I
felt I ought to, rather a passion for God and for others drove me on. I regularly felt communion with God whilst in
prayer, a phenomenon that became more dynamic, until such time as I found
myself meeting with local prophets, being impacted deeply by the holy spirit
and nurturing prophetic prayer gifts.
My life was not limited
to a Christian sub-culture, but was broad: my friends were from a spectrum of
faiths, countries and classes; sports and musical activities kept my life full
whilst I wasn't studying, and I loved to party.Â
Although I struggled with guilt over alcohol and other recurring sins,
as I became more serious about God and holiness I found prayer and   partners who helped me break free from these
negative parts of my life.
My simple faith was accompanied by
many friends, an active lifestyle, almost unquenchable enthusiasm, an open
mind, philosophical and theological study, and a psychology degree.
My faith in the bible evolved. At university I questioned everything, even
the concept of 'word of God', and why we trust the bible at all. Simple questions, but no-one I spoke to could
provide me an answer any more satisfactory to the word of God question than
"it is because it is". I felt
like the carpet had been pulled from under my feet, and began to question why I
had built my life so much on the bible, instead of on Jesus, the rock the new
testament describes as the foundation of life.Â
I found a subtly different way of viewing the bible, but was still able
to see it as a source of authority and inspiration.
I became passionate for social
justice, and led meetings/attended conferences and protests. I felt a burning inside of me that led me on
to more. More God, more healing, more
community, more love… I got engaged.Â
Life was good.
However, eight months before the
wedding, I broke off the relationship, and despite the intense emotions
involved, found a renewed sense of freedom.Â
Part of this freedom involved intellectual change. My foundations for knowledge were totally and
utterly dismantled by the challenges of deconstructionism; I realised that the
whole structure of truth that gave my life form was based on the tacit and,
worse, dangerous and oppressive cultural assumptions of Western modernity. Critical psychology's critiques of
epistemology, patriarchy, cultural imperialism, homophobia and other forms of
prejudice challenged my moralistic, black-and-white, "I-am-right"
religiosity.   But my faith was alive; I
was more deeply Christian than ever before.Â
Having lost some of my evangelical trappings, my relationship with Jesus
was an intimate one, and I had fresh vision for the church, for my life, and
for the world. I remember praying and
studying the bible for an hour every day before even starting my other
activities, without a sense that it was duty.Â
I loved it. I loved Jesus; I
loved God; I loved the church and the world and life to the full.Â
And then, quite literally overnight,
it was gone. All of it. One day I woke up and my best friend had
moved away, the centre of my life was removed, and there was void.  I had no say in this, but I felt no presence
where yesterday there was, I believed in nothing whereas yesterday there was colourful
and dynamic faith. The God who I
communed with daily was quite simply no-longer there any more.
My entrance into the 'Dark Night of
the Soul' was so dramatic I find my words fail to capture the experience at
all. Maybe you can imagine the siege of
a city, and sitting happily outside without knowing you are in the bowl of a
catapult. Realisation only comes when
the catch has been released and you're being hurled at dizzying speed through
the air, over the city walls, and into a strange world of chaos and
uncertainty, a land in which the language you learned as a child suddenly has
no meaning. In the words of one contemplative,
"the entrance into the Dark Night of
the Spirit is heralded by a definitive stroke of the supernatural, which means
that, in a single moment, we are cut off from all that went before, and placed
in a new dimension, with no possibility of going back."
I was filled with a sense of having
no choice other than to go with the process and see what was to happen, a bit
like a gut-wrenching, heart-stopping theme park ride - once you're on,
no-matter how much you scream, you cannot get off until it's all over.
Within weeks my life had spiralled
out of control and into a scary, exhilarating ride through parts of life I was
not really supposed to see or experience. Â
But see and experience I did, and as I swung between depression and
mania I found that I was alienated not only from God, but from all of my
friends and family. I just couldn't
speak to any of these people any more.
A lost and empty soul, I stumbled
through life in what seems in recollection to be a drunken haze. Oscillating between partying every night, to
periods sitting, staring blankly in my room.Â
Not knowing anyone, and not being known.Â
Flights of philosophical fancy and completely failed attempts to
recreate a Christianity. Madness.Â
Perhaps what stopped me tipping
right over the edge was finding a friend, where all other friends had vanished
along with God.   Sharing important
ideas about postmodernity, clubbing, feminism and psychology, there was someone
who could listen to my honesty without fearing that I would now go to hell, and
who understood what was important to me. Â
One friend multiplied into two, and slowly I began to crawl out of my
introspective hole.
I would like to say that it was like
being in a coracle in an ocean storm, small, insignificant, and out of control,
but trusting that the enormous waves would take me back to shore. But it wasn't like that. I distrusted everything and everyone. There was no certainty, no deep belief that kept
me going through it all. The strength of
my faith before was responsible for the depths of my lostness during this time.
Tracing my life from the darkness to
wherever it is that I stand now is difficult.Â
Things that helped me keep going were a family who, despite their strong
beliefs, cared: even though they didn't know what was going on or how to treat
me, they didn't try to force me back into my old Christian clothes. Dark
Nights of the Soul. Buddhist
meditation. She Who Is. Not even trying
to read the bible or go to church. Tich
Naht Hanh. Emerging Church Blogs. Books by Alan Jamieson.  People who I knew were praying for me but
didn't insist on doing it in front of my face.Â
A professional counsellor, who helped me to see the experience as a
bereavement. A spiritual  director
who didn't actually try to direct me
that much. Â Buying a round the world
ticket that has taken me away from people with expectations of who or how I
should be.
Now I like to sit in silence and
calm my mind and soul, to take life gently and try not to invest myself too
much in any new ideology that might easily be later lost. I realise that my roots are in Christianity,
and am looking for creative and positive ways to realise my spirituality within
this tradition, but am open to the light provided by others. I am working in a hospital in
I haven't gone back, I haven't got a
new system to replace the old, but would I really want to? I am exploring, thankfully again
communicating with some of the important people who I lost. Â Â And, at last, I'm feeling OK. Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â
Anon.
Here's a wee list of some
References/Books that have helped:Â Alan
Jamieson: A Churchless Faith; Called Again (Journeying in Faith).  Elizabeth Johnson: She Who Is: The Mystery of God in Feminist Theological Discourse. Brian McLaren: A New Kind of Christian.  Thomas Moore: Dark Nights of the Soul.Â
Gerd Theissen: Shadow of the Galilean.
 Thich Nhat Hanh: Living Buddha, Living Christ.  Bernadette Roberts: The Path to No-self.